It was at her boss's wedding that Sophie Holland decided, with stone-cold certainty, that she wanted to be next down the aisle. Simon, one of her closest friends for the previous three years. We'd stayed overnight at his parents' house, and I woke up and thought, "I am going to ask him to marry me."' Until then Sophie, 40, had worked alongside Simon, 44, in a fabric shop in Soho, London.
The reality is that when friends become lovers the shift in their emotions is usually gradual.
In fact, it's so subtle they don't even notice it's happening until the moment a kindly hug becomes loaded with intention.
Mo Kurimbokus, a relationship counsellor, says, 'Think of it like foreplay.
All the time you're being friends, you're learning about each other.
Subconsciously you're deciding whether you can take it further, from a friendship on to a more emotional and sexual level.' Of course, the overlap in what we want from both friends and partners is significant.