This is one of the best feelings there is; being included automatically by someone you like or love. If I hear a guy bragging about something, it’s an immediate turn off. And, if he has passionate opinions about things as well, this is even better. His apartment is actually nice and not totally barren or messy.
IMO, guys who do this have weak characters and should be dumped ASAP. He notices the stuff you go out of your way to do for him and appreciates it. Life is full of curveballs, problems, a million little issues. But, anything more than seldom recreational use can be a huge red flag. He’s not afraid to be affectionate towards you in public or around other people/friends. He’s steadily affectionate towards you without ups and downs, and you never have to question his level of attraction for you. If you’re able to have orgasms, you should be pleased in bed every time you have sex. A guy who’s only concerned about his own sexual pleasure is definitely nowhere near a “grown ass man”. However, after a certain age this just doesn’t fly. And even better: he uses this as a catalyst for sex. He wants/offers take care of you if you’re not feeling well.
Added bonus: He might even show or tell you how much he values it too. You know you’re dating a grown ass man when He doesn’t fall apart or get irrationally overwhelmed by small stuff that comes up. If you haven’t figured it out by your late twenties, this typically shows that you are just plain messy and don’t take pride in having a clean home. Just as you do for him, on a daily basis, he should do for you when you’re especially feeling low. He encourages you to try new things and explore your own passions. If he wants you to do something, he’ll ask nicely without expectations or hinting. He does lots of things, he’s busy all the time, and he exercises.
Have you ever read the book “Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff”? He takes it all in stride, and most of the time remains rational, even-keeled and just deals with it. Do you wanna be the girl who’s constantly cleaning up after him? He genuinely cares about you and isn’t threatened by the idea of new, exciting or interesting things that arise in your life. He understands that this makes you want to help, as opposed to being resentful about it and doing it for him begrudgingly. And best of all, he is still able to make ample time for you!
There’s nothing worse than someone who flips out at every little unanticipated problem. He considers his partner a partner, not as a separate attachment to his life. One of the worst feelings in the world is not knowing where you stand with someone. Turbulence is minimal, and you enjoy each other’s presence without either of you being ashamed about it. If the guy you’re seeing only owns jeans, T-shirts and tennis shoes or on the contrary: suits and dress-wear…something is definitely off. And better yet, he wants to help you find these things! If he’s upset about something, he doesn’t beat around the bush. The best compliment Now, you’re probably not going to find a guy with every single one of the attributes above, obviously.
I don’t know about you, but when I am with someone, they are very much a big part of my life; definitely one of the biggest parts! A guy who’s up front about what he wants, what he’s looking for and what he wants out of you is a guy worth respecting. He’s ambitious, and he’s active about accelerating his career on his own. Communicating with him is easy, peaceful…ENJOYABLE! If a guy acts one way around you and another way when he’s in front of other people or his friends…it’s safe to say that the forecast is looking rocky. He’s upfront about it and doesn’t have any problems voicing his feelings to you. So before you all go on a tirade about how the perfect man with all these attributes doesn’t exist, just consider a few of them.