One of the most common questions we get from you guys is this: “How can I tell if he wants a relationship or just wants to hook up? When you start talking to a guy you like, it can be difficult to figure out what his intentions are in the beginning – and asking can be too terrifying to even contemplate.
There are subtle signs some guys will give off, but when you have a crush, it’s to become oblivious to those things.
With a girl I'm interested in on a deeper, relationship level, I always try to have a real conversation with her and try to get to know her a lot more than if I just want to hook up with her.
Source: Shutter Stock Lithelm Raspberry: If I'm just trying to hook up then I'll try to initiate sex upon first meeting you.
If I just want to be with you then I'll try to take you on a date. Source: Shutter Stock Gray_Squirrel: Initially, it's the same no matter what. However, if I decide I don't want a long term relationship with her, but I like hooking up with her, then I would usually do 3 main things: 1.
I make sure I don't see her more than once a week (twice a week every once in a while). I make sure I don't always text/talk to her daily, or have long text conversations about nothing. By doing the 3 things above, it sends a pretty clear signal that I'm not looking to take things further.
I usually reserve texts for making plans to meet up and for talking dirty to her. I make sure we don't do any "coupley" things together and I don't involve my or her friends when we hang out. It's then up to her to decide if that's what she wants or not.